Purpose and Grief

Sitting and thinking about life and existence. The word purpose came to our mind. Realising that having purpose is something that keeps us (my sister and I) going. Purpose gives a reason to be motivated and do the simplest thing as getting out of bed in the mornings.

Without feeling there is a purpose, what is there?

My sister and I have been on a whirlwind rollercoaster of a ride since 5th September 2016 when our Dad was hospitalised, up until this very day….

Please see Purpose and Grief which covers:

  1. Introduction
  2. Illustrative examples: Purpose and Grief
  3. Purpose and Grief
  4. Our Final Thoughts/Our YouTube Video

© Copyright 2019 Grief Probate Journey Blog *PLEASE NOTE THIS INFORMATION IS SOURCED FROM UK and AMERICAN WEBSITES* It is also based on our own experience. *We are not experts in this field, we are speaking purely on our own experience with information sought from the internet to give further examples. *

^Top

1. Introduction

Sitting and thinking about life and existence. The word purpose came to our mind. Realising that having purpose is something that keeps us (my sister and I) going. Purpose gives a reason to be motivated and do the simplest thing as getting out of bed in the mornings.

Without feeling there is a purpose, what is there?

My sister and I have been on a whirlwind rollercoaster of a ride since 5th September 2016 when our Dad was hospitalised, up until this very day.

It has been and is a constant struggle for us. It’s hard… we know our reality is that our Dad is no longer here. What has been and is still extremely difficult for us is the acceptance of this. To this very day, we still have not accepted this. We do recognise that it has a lot to do with how, where and why.

Purpose came to mind because our purpose has been:

  • Trying our very best to ensure our Dad had the best care and attention we could give as much as possible under the circumstances when he was an inpatient in the hospital.
  • When he sadly passed away in March 2017 our purpose changed once again.
  • Looking out for our Mum and making sure she was coping and was okay as can be.
  • Sorting our Dads affairs.

This turned out to be such a huge, overwhelming, daunting, soul-destroying experience. This is just naming a few things.

These experiences left us feeling:

  • Angry
  • Let down
  • Bitter
  • Distrustful
  • Negative

Knowing all of this, we had this strong feeling that we needed to do something about this situation. So many things were out of our control and so, we thankfully found our new purpose.

The start of Grief Probate Journey which we launched in June 2019.

Since this time we haven’t looked back.

We are on a grief journey, but we are also on a journey that our blog is taking us on. We feel humbled, honoured and blessed for how far we have come in our blog journey.

We also have another purpose that is keeping us going.

The complaint we are making against the hospital that our Dad was an inpatient. We are striving the seek the rightful justice that our Dad so rightly deserves.

My sister and I often say that had we not raised our complaint, and had we not started this blog to share our experiences, we do not know what life would be like for us. Both of these things are mentally helping us to cope along our journey.

Both the blog and the complaint felt like they were the only right thing to do based on the situation and circumstances we found ourselves in.

Please see: Purpose and Grief

^Top

2. Illustrative examples: Purpose and Grief

^Top

3. Purpose and Grief

3.1 What’s the point of grief? – the conversation

“13 May 2020 — The “five stages” model is the best known, with the stages being denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance – though these”….

3.2 What is the purpose of grief?

Grieving is purely an individual experience. The ultimate goal of grief and mourning is to take you beyond your initial reactions to the loss. The therapeutic purpose of grief and mourning is to get you to the place where you can live with the loss in a healthy way”.

3.3 What is the purpose of grief? – Quora

“Grief teaches us many things. Humbleness. Gratitude for having known that person. Most of all – Faith. For those who don’t believe in a higher power, grief teaches” ..

3.4 The True Purpose of Grief – Dr. Elora Han

“12 Apr 2020 — Grief awakens you to pain but it also awakens you to your spirit. Life was never about your deadlines or work stress, or what this or that person” …

3.5 Finding Purpose After Loss – Grief in Common

“23 Feb 2018 — Finding purpose is a “stage” of grieving often overlooked. It’s the answer to “what now ?” & it can have the most meaningful impact on how a”…

3.6 The Purpose of Grief and Mourning – LegacyConnect

“By Therese Rando, Ph.D. Grief responses are natural reactions when you experience loss and separation from those you love. They express three things: 1”.

^Top

4. Our Final Thoughts/YouTube Video

We hope this topic might be of use to someone. We would like to wish anyone who reads this a great day, remainder of the week and beyond.

^Top

Advertisement

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.