- Unguided
- Overwhelmed
Not knowing what to do or where to turn.
We feel like we have lost our way and do not know what direction we will be heading in, or if the direction we are choosing is the right or best one……
Please see Direction and Grief which covers:
- Introduction
- Illustrative examples: Direction and Grief
- Direction and Grief
- Our Final Thoughts/YouTube Video
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1. Introduction
- Unguided
- Overwhelmed
Not knowing what to do or where to turn.
We feel like we have lost our way and do not know what direction we will be heading in, or if the direction we are choosing is the right or best one.
It truly is a daunting experience and the feelings of:
- Worry
- Doubt
- Discomfort
- Anxiousness
- Despair
They seem to come at us from all directions, and sometimes all at once.
This has been one of the most mentally and physically challenges we have had to face in our whole entire life.
Each and every day, with each new decision we have to make, we try our very best to do it confidently, with faith and hope that things will work out for us.
It has now been four years since our Dad passed away. This is absolutely unbelievable for us.
Sometimes in moments, we just feel really sad. Our Dad will never be here on earth with us ever again.
It also makes us feel sad to know how much pain and suffering our Dad endured in the last seven months of his life. That causes us so much sadness.
The fact that we haven’t accepted the loss of our Dad due to the nature of the circumstances does almost have us at another loss.
Although we know our situation is real, and that unfortunately, we cannot do anything to change what has happened, we are trying our very best to do is get the justice our Dad so rightfully deserves. (we have a topic on Making A Complaint).
There really wasn’t any other way or any other option. This complaint is what needed and had to be done.
One thing my sister and I are fully aware of is that we are not the same people we were five years ago before our Dad was admitted into the hospital on 5th September 2016. We will never be the same again, we do not know the people we have become yet.
This is our feelings with the loss of our Dad, and then there is the worldwide pandemic that we have been living through for 13 months that has a major huge impact on humankind.
This pandemic has not only changed us as people, but it has also changed the world and way of life that we once knew, which once again means that we are not the same people we were 17 months ago before this all started.
We have had to learn to adapt to an abrupt change of life.
Please see Direction and Grief:
2. Illustrative examples: Direction and Grief
3. Direction and Grief
3.1 How does grief affect a person?
“Grief can affect our body, mind, emotions, and spirit. People might notice or show grief in several ways: Physical reactions: These might be things like changes in appetite or sleep, an upset stomach, tight chest, crying, tense muscles, trouble relaxing, low energy, restlessness, or trouble concentrating”.
3.2 Why is grieving so important?
Grieving such losses is important because it allows us to ‘free-up’ energy that is bound to the lost person, object, or experience—so that we might re-invest that energy elsewhere. … Healthy grieving results in an ability to remember the importance of our loss—but with a newfound sense of peace, rather than searing pain.
3.3 How do you stay healthy when grieving?
Tips for dealing with grief
- “Accept some loneliness. Loneliness is completely normal, but it is important not to get too isolated”. …
- “Choose good company”. …
- “Be gentle with yourself”. …
- “Get extra rest”. …
- “Embrace all emotions”. …
- “Set a regular sleep schedule”. …
- “Move your body”. …
- “Talk to your doctor”. (More items…27 Jul 2018)
3.4 Spiritual Direction and Grief
“First I want to emphasize that spiritual direction does not replace counselling for grief recovery. Counseling is a very important part of the healing”…
3.5 Grief, Loss, And Bereavement Self-Help | Psychology Tools
“(4 Aug 2020) — There is no right way to grieve and no ‘quick fix’, but there are ways that you can help yourself to come to terms with your loss”.
3.6 Is this normal? What is a normal way to grieve? – Cruse
“Grief affects us all in different ways, & you may ask ‘Am I normal?’ It’s important to remember there is no standard way to grieve”.
3.7 Feelings When Someone Dies | What does grief feel like?
“There’s no ‘right’ way to grieve and we each react in our own way. But some of our clients have reported feeling the following emotions. Common feelings after”…
3.8 “Steamrolled Us In Every Direction: The Year Grief Hit From All Sides
“(1 Jan 2021) — A 10 is exceptional,” she says. Here, how four people have been grieving their own unique losses amid the collective grief of this pandemic”.
3.9 Coronavirus, Bereavement and Grief
“Feelings when someone died of Covid-19 or during the pandemic. Shock. Their death may have been unexpected or become serious very quickly.”
3.10 Grief and bereavement during the Covid-19 Pandemic
“The death of a loved one is one of the most difficult emotional experiences that we can have in life. The pain and grief that follows can seem, at times”, …
3.11 How to complain to the NHS
“You can either complain to the NHS service provider directly (such as a GP, dentist surgery or hospital) or to the commissioner of the services, which is the”…
4. Our Final Thoughts/YouTube Video
We hope this topic might be of use to those who read it.
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