Trying to be focused on the game on my phone. Out of nowhere, the thought of solitude came to mind.
The reason being, assessing how life has for the last 5 years. Wow. Six years since our Dad was hospitalised..
Please see Solitude and Grief which covers:
- Introduction
- Illustrative examples: Quotes Solitude and Grief
- Solitude and Grief
- Our Final thoughts/YouTube video
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1. Introduction
Trying to be focused on the game on my phone. Out of nowhere, the thought of solitude came to mind.
The reason being, assessing how life has been for the last 5 years. Wow. Six years since our Dad was hospitalised.
What’s, even more, Wow and unbelievable is that means it’s now the fifth year since our Dad sadly passed away in March 2017. It’s still so unbelievable and the realisation it has been that many years feels so unreal. Time has frozen for my sister and I. Even though we know the years are still going and life is going on, it has frozen for us. We are not as current and in touch with the world and society as we should be.
We know the worldwide pandemic has added to this. The way the world and how we interact and socialise drastically changed in almost an instant. Added to that our Mum was very ill last year. It was scary, challenging and uncertain times for us. It also triggered worries and fears we had when our Dad was an inpatient in the hospital. Our only focus was getting to the root cause of our Mum’s conditions and doing our best to get her back on to a road of recovery. Thankfully our Mum is in a much better place than she was, and for that, we are forever thankful, grateful and blessed.
Whenever these feelings come, we often Google to see what we can find.
We did that this time, and this is what we found.
Please see Solitude and Grief:
2. Illustrative examples: Quotes Solitude and Grief
3. Solitude and Grief
3.1 Solitude or Social Support in Grief? Why We Need Both |TAPS
(2 May 2019) — “Acknowledging and embracing these necessary contradictions is part of our work of mourning. It’s a question of balance and back-and-forth”.
3.2 Loneliness and Solitude in Grief
(27 Feb 2012) — “Our culture isn’t comfortable with the subject of death, and few of us know how to cope with the pain of loss and grief. We don’t permit or”…
3.3 Coping with Loneliness – Hospice Foundation of America
“The intense and mixed feelings of grief can lead to separation and isolation from others. It is that uncomfortable feeling of being lonely in a crowd, being in”…
3.4 Loneliness in Bereavement: Measurement Matters | Psychology
(13 Sept 2021) — “The role of loneliness in the bereavement experience has been reported as substantial, with the death of a close person leaving a”…
3.5 Five Ways to Manage Your Grief and Loneliness
(2 Jun 2021) — “Loneliness and isolation are a giant cause of suffering for grieving people. Try these five tips on how to cope with the loneliness of”…
3.6 Is loneliness a symptom of grief?
“Loneliness is a natural part of grief and it is one of the more trying aspects of accepting a loss. When a loved one dies, a hole is left that no one and nothing else can fill. It is as if no one else can know or understand. The intense and mixed feelings of grief can lead to separation and isolation from others”.
3.7 Is it normal to want to be alone while grieving?
“The truth is, there are a lot of different variations of “normal” grief. However, grief is often complicated when certain factors are out of our control. In a time when self-isolation has become the standard, it’s not “abnormal” to feel challenged when it comes to grieving in a healthy way”. (18 May 2020).
3.9 Why do people isolate themselves when they grieve?
“At times, grieving individuals often find themselves intentionally self isolating. The choice may be made for a variety of reasons such as the fear of breaking down in public, the realization that many previously enjoyed activities don’t seem as important anymore or the sense that others don’t understand”. (9 Dec 2020).
3.10 Is isolation good for grief?
“That loneliness and related feelings of isolation are normal. These two sensations are also normal and natural feelings associated with grief. Grief can be a very lonely and isolating experience. No matter the loss that is causing your emotional pain, you are very much alone in how it impacts you”. (10 Aug 2017).
3.11 How grief can ruin a relationship
“Grief changes the nature of relationships”:
“Some changes may lead to a positive experience as these individuals may rally around you. Many times, it is not as positive. … The impact of these feelings can challenge the previous dynamics of your relationship, sometimes exacerbating already present issues”.
3.12 The unique Loneliness of Grief
“We equate loneliness to the very definable concept of being alone, which means “without other people,” and thanks to “lonely people” archetypes — like the”…
4. Our Final thoughts/YouTube video
The loss of our Dad and everything that has followed since has been one of the most loneliest forever life-changing moments.
The ebbs and flows of emotions hit you at any time when you least expect it. Feeling just about okay in one moment, and devastatingly sad in the next.
So much is going on for us that we actually almost forgot the date of our Dad’s anniversary of his passing. That was shocking for us. But then even when we worked out what date it was and made preparations, we got it wrong again. We were one day early. This left us feeling devastated. How could this happen, it’s never happened before.
But as my sister and some friends said, we are human, we have got so much going on right now. That is how this was possible to happen.
To be honest, the way we feel right now is back to the days of Probate when everything was all at once with no time for breathing or time to think or process.
We feel the recurring feeling of sadness is probably triggering due to the fact that we are awaiting the final verdict from the Trust. They have not been complying with the deadlines they’ve been given, which is transporting us back to the treatment we received over the seven month period our Dad was an inpatient in the hospital.
A life was lost here, it is not acceptable, it will NEVER EVER be okay. We WILL CONTINUE in our aim to get the rightful justice that our Dad deserves. Everything that we have been doing is in his honour. We love and miss him every day.
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