Music and Grief

Music, it can be soothing to the soul. Send you on a path down memory lane, or reminisce about good times. It can quite often transport you to the moments when the song was a big part of your life….

Please see Music and Grief which covers:

  1. Introduction
  2. Quotes/Illustrative examples: Music and Grief
  3. Music and Grief
  4. Our final thoughts/YouTube Video

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1. Introduction

Music, it can be soothing to the soul. Send you on a path down memory lane, or reminisce about good times. It can quite often transport you to the moments when the song was a big part of your life.

The feelings music brings can be bittersweet, it can make you smile, but it can also make you feel sad… feel sad of a life once lived, the life of a life with your loved one/friend/spouse/sibling still in it.

Music has played a big part in feelings and emotions during this pandemic. When speaking to many people they would often say the same thing, the music brought us back to the days when we were almost living carefree, going out having fun.

During the lockdown remembering those times was most definitely bittersweet, it was remembering a life once had, wondering if that life could ever be had again.

There is also another type of bittersweet that music brings. Songs that remind us of our Dad, if we hear songs that we chose for his send-off, songs where we can picture exactly how our Dad would be Dancing. Those moments are hard to bare… but at the same time, we do not ever want to not have memories, that is scarier than dealing with bittersweet moments.

And then there are the trigger moments with music that bring on instant sadness, and memories of times that we do not want to remember. Songs that played on the hospital radio… the seven-month period that has led us to the point in time that we stand today.

With all the varying emotions it can bring, we appreciate music and the therapy that it can add to your life. Even in the bittersweet moments, it adds value and moments of appreciation and reflection.

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2. Quotes/Illustrative examples: Music and Grief

 

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3. Music and Grief

3.1 How does Music help with grief?

Music can access our deepest emotions. It can help us discover these emotions, experience fully and accept them. Music creates a legitimate space to grieve especially when words may be impossible and it can also allow you to connect and feel with others in grief”.

3.2 Can you listen to music while mourning?

“Grief tends to carry a number of emotions. It can feel very confusing and difficult to know your own feelings. Using music to help with grief can help you get a grasp on which emotions you are feeling. Songs can help you pinpoint your feelings, and naming them gives you some control over them”. (23 Mar 2021).

3.3 Six songs about grief and loss

“After losing a loved one, it can be hard to put your grief into words. Sometimes, music can be a source of great comfort and healing during those difficult times”.

3.4 40 Best R&B Songs for Saying Goodbye – Death…

“Funeral songs and music in the R&B genre may feature lyrics discussing … R&B, soul, and pop singer Emeli Sandé’s Sparrow has lyrics celebrating the loss”…

3.5 Why can’t you listen to music after someone dies?

“Music expresses that which cannot be said and on which it is impossible to be silent.” When someone you love passes away, you have the choice to sit with your emotions or avoid them completely. Some people choose to not listen to music because they don’t want to trigger memories that evoke painful feelings.

3.6 The Brain, Grief and Music

“Music can do great things for us, when we’re stressing, grieving, working out, learning, and more. Covering the basics of the brain, grief and music”.

3.7 Signing death: why music and grief go hand in hand The..

24 Aug 2017 — Music has long been associated with emotional expression of one sort or another: joy, sadness, celebration and ritual. But in grief is found …

3.8 Songs of Loss and Healing the little understood…

“Firstly, music is a legitimate space for grief – even extended forms of grief that last long after society deems it acceptable to talk about”.

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4. Our final thoughts/YouTube Video

 We hope this topic might resonate/relate to those who read it.

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