My sister and I are not present as much as we used to be on this platform for various reasons. But something that hadn’t ever gone away is the loss of our Dad. We still feel that pain and loss. We also feel deeply when we hear someone has lost someone, or a relative has a life-threatening medical condition…..
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1. Introduction to the topic
My sister and I are not present as much as we used to be on this platform for various reasons. But something that hasn’t ever gone away is the loss of our Dad. We still feel that pain and loss.
Something that I have also realised is that my feelings about what I dealt with when our Dad was in the hospital are still suppressed. I am still affected by Triggers up until this day seven years later. I say I’ve realised this is still the case, but in honesty, I didn’t think about it so much until something happened by chance.
My nephew’s birthday was coming up (March 2024) and so I was going through my phone looking for pictures to make him a collage. (I can never resist a collage). When doing this I came across pictures of my Dad that I’d taken when he was in the hospital. The feelings this brought to me are so hard to explain. I wasn’t prepared to see them. It was a shock. It was a reminder of the times we went through. I felt sad. We weren’t the ones who were ill and suffering like our Dad was, but we were still traumatised.
Another situation that occurred was when I was listening to a friend Antique Ampomah talking on her WhatsApp status about her health journey, Triggers and PTSD. I related to what she was saying in so many ways, and this is also what made me realise I am still affected by my experience.
Although saying that, I can relate to Antique and triggers related to health journeys with the latest procedure I had in 2021. That entire experience was traumatic, extremely painful, and mentally and physically draining. It was one of my hardest recoveries. That alone shocked me especially as the procedure was classed as “routine”. I suffered a lot and was so thankful when I fully recovered. Since that time, I do everything I can to ensure it never comes back. I wouldn’t ever want to go through that again. (I did a topic on it).
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Another trigger for me is songs on the radio. When my dad was in the hospital the radio was played on the ward and in his room. Whenever I hear the same songs on the radio to this day it transports me right back to those times and feelings.
In honesty, I don’t think we will ever get over the loss or come to terms with the nature of how our Dad passed away. It will NEVER BE OKAY.
Things that still give us feelings of warmth are reminders of our Dad such as the flowers we brought to our garden that still bloom seven years later. The labour of our Dad’s work still flourishing. Our Dad will never ever be forgotten. We forever love him dearly. The image for this topic is one of the flowers from our Dads Garden.
Although we may not be as consistent in our presence, we still always continue to try and help spread awareness of matters that should have more recognition. We have a new guest feature topic coming shortly.
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2. Seven Years of Grief Examples
2.1 Seven years without you and 7 memories I’ll never forget
(25 Aug 2017) — “Seven Years Without You & 7 … Dad, 7 years ago you got your wings and became my angel. … I’ll love you and miss you all the days of my life”.
2.2 How long will I grieve for my Dad?
“But there is no timetable or timeline for grief. It is completely normal to feel profoundly sad for more than a year, and sometimes many years, after a person you love has died. Don’t put pressure on yourself to feel better or move on because other people think you should”.
2.3 Why is losing a father so hard?
“Losing a parent changes your life in several ways: You’ve lost a person who saw your uniqueness and gave you unconditional love. Your position in your family changes, and you may become a member of the older generation. You realize your own mortality because a generation no longer separates you and death”.
2.4 What does losing a father do to a daughter?
“Bereaved adult children report a wide range of initial symptoms related to parent death, including difficulties sleeping and working and getting along with certain people; residual reactions included becoming upset when thinking about the parent, finding it painful to recall the parent’s” …
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