This topic came about as this is what my sister and I are going through. We cannot actually believe it has been six years since our Dad sadly passed away. This realisation makes it seem that no matter how many more years go by, it is always going to seem unreal, raw and new…
Please see Six years of Grief which covers:
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1. Introduction
This topic came about as this is what my sister and I are going through. We hadn’t planned on doing this, but when reflecting on the fact this anniversary has come back around, it felt like the only right thing to do.
We cannot actually believe it has been six years today (6th March) since our Dad sadly passed away. This realisation makes it seem that no matter how many more years go by, it is always going to seem unreal, raw and new.
Around this time of the year my sister and I feel sad. Another year has gone by without our Dad. We miss our Dad immensely in so many ways. He was an inspirational, kind-hearted, well-respected man. He liked helping people and making changes within his local community. He volunteered at charities and was responsible for gaining grants within his community to make improvements to the area for the youth. And a part of keeping some of the beaches public in his hometown of Barbados. We have topics on:
My sister and I have truly been on a journey over these six years, from dealing with our Dad’s estate, making a complaint against the hospital in which he was an inpatient, starting this blog, and everyday daily life. It’s been a lot.
We still feel as though we are living in a blur and a bubble, and that we still are not quite fitting into society.
BUT what we do hope is that even with our unfortunate and huge loss, we are doing our best to carry on our Dad’s legacy. That was the purpose of this blog. Sharing. Sharing to try and make a difference and possibly help others.
We hope our Dad would be proud of what we are doing. This blog is in his honour.
Please see Six years of Grief:
2. Six years of Grief
2.1 Is it normal to still grieve after 6 years?
“But there is no timetable or timeline for grief. It is completely normal to feel profoundly sad for more than a year, and sometimes many years, after a person you love has died. Don’t put pressure on yourself to feel better or move on because other people think you should”.
2.2 Can you still grieve after 5 years?
“After several years”
“The grief doesn’t ever completely go away, and sometimes the feelings can be as intense as when someone first died. But in time the painful feelings come less often and your life starts to be filled with other things”.
2.3 What does grief feel like? – Mind
Read about different experiences of grief and how it can feel to be bereaved. Learn about the grief cycle, and how grief relates to mental health.
2.4 Is it okay to grieve for years?
“If your grief is worsening as the months and years wear on, instead of lessening, or if it’s interfering with your ability to live your life, you should consult with a therapist or counselor that specializes in grief. Unresolved or complicated grief has been known to lead to depression and other mental health problems”.
2.5 Can grief change you forever?
“Profound grief can change a person’s psychology and personality forever. The initial changes that occur immediately after suffering a significant loss may go unnoticed for several weeks or months after the death of a loved one or other traumatic experience”. (16 Sept 2022).
2.6 Can grief trigger dementia?
The study found that individuals who experience partner bereavement were nearly 50% more likely to be diagnosed with dementia within three months after the bereavement, compared to those whose partners are still living. (14 Nov 2019).
3. 10 years of Grief
3.1 Can grief hit you 10 years later?
Delayed grief is an experience of feeling deep sorrow, long after experiencing the death of someone you are close with. It is when our emotional reaction to loss doesn’t happen right away. Somehow the reaction is postponed. Pushed off for months, years, or even decades. (19 Jul 2021).
3.2 Is it possible to grieve 10 years later?
“Even many months or years after a loss, you may still continue to feel sadness and grief especially when confronted with reminders of their life or their death. It’s important to find healthy ways to cope with these waves of grief as part of the healing process”.
3.3 Why have I been grieving for years?
‘ ” Long term mourning can also be caused by unresolved feelings—anything from guilt over something that happened years earlier, a feeling that as a caregiver one didn’t do enough, or feelings of anger. “Anger is a common part of grief that people have a hard time acknowledging,” says Leiser.
“Grief is a lifelong process. While the agonizing pain of loss diminishes in intensity over time, it’s never gone completely. It is absolutely normal to feel the aftershock of loss for the rest of your life. Grieving is not a reaction to a single event, like an illness that can be cured and from which you will recover”.
3.5 Is it normal to grieve for 20 years?
Having dealt with her loss for nearly 20 years I can tell you that grief does not go away. The intensity of grief may change over time and the characteristics of grief you experience change as well. Yet grief rooted in the death of a loved one never goes away and that is a good thing. (23 Mar 2012).
4. Our final thoughts
As we continue along our journey. We will always try to be the best that we can be. But also remembering that taking time out to look after ourselves is very important.
Aside from this blog, one of our other main missions was seeking justice for our Dad against the hospital in which he was an inpatient. Unfortunately for us not having enough knowledge/experience during this time. We have run out of time. We are not going to let this stop us. We will find other ways to get our voices heard. We will not give up.
We love and miss you Dad.
We hope this topic may be of use to those who read it.
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