Sitting and thinking about our life and journey. We have had many highs, lows, ups and downs. But something that we are realising, although we’ve probably known it all along. Everything hits harder since the loss of our Dad….
Please see Things hit harder with grief which covers:
- Does Grief get harder over time?
- How does grief affect a person?
- Overcoming Griefs health-damaging effects/Mental health and grief
- Our final thoughts
- Our YouTube video
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Sitting and thinking about our life and journey. We have had many highs, lows, ups and downs. But something that we are realising, although we’ve probably known it all along. Everything hits harder since the loss of our Dad.
It literally feels like we have had to come through so many challenges, and each of these challenges changes us even more.
We are completely different people; we will never be the same. Everything we do is trying to get through and survive each day we wake up to. Being grateful for another day and trying to have the strength and mental capacity to deal with things that come our way as positively as possible.
It is a part of our life that will never go away, we just have to find ways to deal with it. some days it isn’t present in the forefront of our mind, other days the smallest thing could be a trigger and we are back in our feelings again.
There are moments I might remember my Dad, or a time that he was in the hospital, and as soon as the thought enters my mind, I start shaking my head, as though doing that will shake the thought away. It has become a coping mechanism throughout the years.
With everything that has gone on worldwide over the past few years, it feels like there was “pre-pandemic life” and “post-pandemic life” this is how it is for my sister and I, pre-life before our Dad was hospitalised, and post-life since he passed away. Life has felt like a whirlwind a lot of times, but having this blog/platform, and sharing and learning from others has also helped us along our journey.
Please see Things hit harder with grief:
2. Does Grief get harder over time?
2.1 Does grief get harder over time?
“Symptoms of grief feel continuous for a long time, and they get harder to cope with over time, rather than gradually easier. Intense and overwhelming feelings of grief are having an impact on your day-to-day living”.
2.2 Why does grief hit so hard?
“So, a STUG may be driven by many layers of unresolved issues with our loved one. It may be driven by feelings of helplessness at being able to prevent their death or suffering. It can be the result of pent up emotions that had no place to go”.(28 Aug 2020).
2.3 What are challenging situations of grief?
- “Intense sorrow, pain and rumination over the loss of your loved one”.
- “Focus on little else but your loved one’s death”.
- “Extreme focus on reminders of the loved one or excessive avoidance of reminders”.
- “Intense and persistent longing or pining for the deceased”.
- “Problems accepting the death”.
- “Numbness or detachment”.
2.4 Why does grief get harder?
“Grief can take everything you have, especially in the earliest days. When a crisis hits and you are already depleted, all of a sudden everything becomes more challenging. Things you could have managed before your loss feel insurmountable now”. (26 Mar 2020).
3. How does grief affect a person?
3.1 How does grief affect a person mentally?
“Chronic stress also is common during acute grief and can lead to a variety of physical and emotional issues, such as depression, trouble sleeping, feelings of anger and bitterness, anxiety, loss of appetite, and general aches and pains”.
3.2 Can grief change your personality?
“Personality changes like being more irritable, less patient, or no longer having the tolerance for other people’s “small” problems. Forgetfulness, trouble concentrating and focusing. Becoming more isolated, either by choice or circumstances. Feeling like an outcast”.
3.3 What does grief do to the brain?
“Your brain is on overload with thoughts of grief, sadness, loneliness and many other feelings. Grief Brain affects your memory, concentration, and cognition. Your brain is focused on the feelings and symptoms of grief which leaves little room for your everyday tasks”.
4. Overcoming Griefs health-damaging effects/Mental health and grief
4.1 How to overcome grief’s health-damaging effects
“Grieving over the death of a spouse, friend, or family member exposes people to constant stress that can lead to anxiety, depression, trouble sleeping”, …
4.2 Dealing with grief and loss | Mental health advice – YoungMinds
“If you’re struggling to come to terms with a death, you’re finding daily life hard and things don’t seem to be getting any better, it can help to talk to”…
4.3 Coping with grief | Cancer Research UK
“Grief is very personal. You might go through a range of feelings and could sometimes feel overwhelmed. The two things that help most are time and support”.
5. Our final thoughts
We say quite often, that grief is a unique experience. It is as individual as a fingerprint. There is no rule book, no right or wrong way to process/move through your journey. If this is a topic you have come across, we hope you find it useful. And please do feel to share it.
Love, Hugs and Blessings.
Grief Probate Journey
6. Our YouTube video