Grief is not Linear

Preview to the topic

This topic came about purely by chance, because of a conversation I was having with my sister. The term grief is not like looking through rose-tinted glasses came to mind.

We went to google it to see if this was something that would give any information. But auto type came up with Grief is not linear.

We wanted to find out more as the definition spoke to us…..

Please see Grief is not Linear which covers:

  1. Introduction
  2. Quotes: Grief is not linear
  3. Grief is not linear
  4. Our Final Thoughts/Our YouTube Video

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1. Introduction

This topic came about purely by chance, because of a conversation I was having with my sister. The term grief is not like looking through rose-tinted glasses came to mind.

We went to google it to see if this was something that would give any information. But auto type came up with Grief is not linear.

We wanted to find out more as the definition spoke to us.

Grief is not linear “People kept telling me that once this happened or that passed, everything would be better. Then a song, a glimpse of something, or maybe even nothing sends you back into the hole of grief….. It is not one step forward, two steps back”.

This is something my sister and I can surely relate to.

A lot of times we feel like we have jumbled mess squiggly lines in our head.

It can feel like there is so much noise going on in our head because it never stops thinking, planning, organising.

In our blog, we not only speak of our grief and our journey, but we also share other people’s journeys, awareness days, medical conditions.

We do this as it is all relatable to the journey we have experienced and are still on.

From time to time, these topics take us away from blogging about our personal grief journey, which we do not see as a bad thing as it is a journey that means everything we blog about is part of our journey. It is also a chance to appreciate the versatility that it brings and to show different types and aspects of grief. But when it is time to revisit our personal grief journey we sometimes feel like, this is strange, should we be doing this, how will this topic be perceived.

It’s like we almost feel as though we need to reintroduce ourselves and our story, and then we think about whether or not a topic we are thinking about posting is appropriate with what is currently going on.

What we then try to remind ourselves is that there is never a right time. If we let ourselves worry about that, then we wouldn’t have our blog. We are trying to be our authentic selves speaking our truth, sharing our story.

Even though we are doing this blog, we are still grieving, we still haven’t reached a point of acceptance of losing our Dad.

We are still trying to find our way and get our heads around what has happened.

And like most people worldwide we are navigating our way around a new way of life and living which has changed the way people can mourn and honour loved ones lost.

When topics come to us in this way, we feel it is for a reason, and the reason is we need to share this. We need to share this to try to help be part of whatever we can do to make a shared difference.

When these things happen, even if we have a topic planned and prepared, we postpone it because the feeling that we have from this is so strong that we do not want to leave publishing it for another time.

Please see Grief is not linear:

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2. Quotes: Grief is not Linear

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3. Grief is not Linear

3.1 Grief is not Linear. Reflections on losing my Dad – Medium

“ (4 Nov 2018) — “It doesn’t matter; grief is not linear. Their death hurled you at breathtaking velocity through the thirtieth story window of Life As You” …

3.2 Grief isn’t a one and done process. Grief isn’t linear

“(1 Apr 2020) — How I’ve Redefined the Stages of Grief and Realized It’s Not at All Linear … I’ve lived with grief for 17 years, so nothing surprised me more …

3.3 A letter to my friends currently in grief ((Grief isn’t linear))

“27 Oct 2017 — Grief is not linear. You have permission to feel. Feel as deeply as you possibly can. Go ahead and dive deep beyond the surface, and when you” …

3.4 Grief doesn’t have five stages | The Outline

“(5 Sept 2018) — Despite what we want to believe, there is no linear path through loss. … If you haven’t experienced the death of someone close — someone so”…

3.5 Understanding the Nonlinear Stages of Grief | JL Memorial

“(23 Jul 2019) — Simply put, grief is complicated. There is no set timeline. It is nonlinear, and it is very, very personal. In fact, the “stages of grief” …

3.6 Is grief a linear process?

Grieving is also not a linear process

“One moment you feel you’ve fully moved past something, the next moment it’s right back in front of your face. That’s because grief is insidious, imposing and demands to be felt. Even if you’re able to somehow avoid it all day long, grief comes back to you in your sleep”. (10 Jan 2020).

3.7 Grief has no timeline

“A common misconception about grief is that there is a linear timeline that one must pass through in order to come to terms with the death of a loved one. Generally, pain is tempered as time passes, but there is no timeline with grief”.

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4. Our Final Thoughts/Our YouTube Video

We almost feel inspired when topics present themselves to us. we also feel humbled, thankful, grateful and blessed that we have a platform to share as we go along our journey.

These things give us a sense of purpose and direction. This blog plays a huge part in us functioning and getting by as we do day by day since our Dad passed away. It took us two years to be able to actually put our thoughts into action, but we have no regrets.

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