Sitting thinking, feeling. Thoughts churning round and round feeling like wanting to escape…..
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1. Introduction to the topic
Sitting thinking, feeling. Thoughts churning round and round feeling like wanting to escape. Escape the thoughts, escape the feelings, escape to a form of “normality”
What is even normality, does it even still exist.
New realities, new normal, new way of life. These were my thoughts and feelings in October 2021. I came across it again, and the words spoke to me. The feelings are so relevant.
It is mentioned often in our blog that from the moment our Dad was hospitalised in 2016, to this very day, our lives have never been the same. It still seems unreal, we still can’t believe it. It is pushed away in the back of our minds even though we know it is real.
Recently I was speaking to someone who said they knew our Dad. To say how that made me feel inside was surreal, it was happiness and joy, but then sadness at the same time. In moments like this, it all comes back and we remember our Dad is no longer here….
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2. Escape Route and Grief
2.1 My escape Route – Free Online Library
“25 Mar 2018 — Not that travel is the only way to assuage grief. Memories are, after all, part of the baggage we carry on board and abroad”.
2.2 A Healing journey: travel and coping with grief | Flash pack
“Simultaneously, it also distracts you with small, incidental decisions that pull you shy from a vortex of sadness. It provides a physical escape – a space” …
2.3 Escape Route – HeartSpace: Online
Refuge for grief (podcast …)
“There’s a tendency to want to run away from the experience of grief. In this episode, Dr Jean Mulloy and Val Spies explore how to respond to” …
2.4 How do Avoidants deal with grief?
Individuals with avoidant attachment might use distraction or disengagement “strategies, such as distancing themselves from and suppressing their emotions and memories, making them more likely to use avoidant coping strategies” (Suar et al., 2017). (19 Jan 2018)’
2.5 How do you escape from grief?
Instead, try these things to help you come to terms with your loss and begin to heal:
- “Give yourself time. Accept your feelings and know that grieving is a process”.
- “Talk to others. Spend time with friends and family”. …
- “Take care of yourself”. …
- “Return to your hobbies”. …
- “Join a support group”. (12 Dec 2022)
2.6 What are the 3 C’s of grief?
“choose, connect, communicate”
“Practice the three C’s”
“As you build a plan, consider the “three Cs”: choose, connect, communicate. Choose: Choose what’s best for you. Even during dark bouts of grief, you still possess the dignity of choice. “Grief often brings the sense of loss of control,” said Julie”. (22 Nov 2021)
2.7 What are the 6 R’s of grief?
Phases of Grief: The Six ‘R’s of Mourning
- “Recognize the loss”.
- “React to the separation”.
- “Recollect and re-experience”.
- “Relinquish old attachments”.
- “Readjust”.
- “Reinvest”. (1 Mar 2021)
2.8 Understanding Avoidance in Grief
“Experiential avoidance is an attempt to block out, reduce or change unpleasant thoughts, emotions or bodily sensations. These are internal experiences that are”…
2.9 Rest in Pieces
“Death shatters us on so many levels that our natural reaction is often to try to hold everything together. We try to be strong. We try to stay positive”.
3. Our final thoughts
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