Quite often in life, we reminisce on past times.
This could be by choice, or it could be by circumstances. As an example, a social media platform could show you a memory from the year before (and years prior to that)
Or, it could be like me when looking at old pictures to create a collage, you start to reflect on more of your pictures and get transported back to those times…..
Please see Memories and Grief which covers:
- Introduction
- Illustrative examples: Memories and Grief
- Memories and Grief
- Our Final thoughts/YouTube Video
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1. Introduction
Quite often in life, we reminisce on past times.
This could be by choice, or it could be by circumstances. As an example, a social media platform could show you a memory from the year before (and years prior to that).
Or, it could be like me when looking at old pictures to create a collage, you start to reflect on more of your pictures and get transported back to those times.
It’s happened when looking for something for this topic. I went back to a previous topic: Family and Grief, forgetting that topic has pictures of treasured family memories. Because I wasn’t prepared to see that, it took me aback, like I almost jumped back from the laptop. That was my instant reaction.
Since the lockdown, when looking back at old pictures it has been bitter-sweet. Sweet for the fun great times had and appreciating the moments. Bitter, actually sad thinking when can times like this happen again. The pandemic has completely changed life and our way of living worldwide.
It really truly makes me appreciate everything that I have done prior to the pandemic so much more.
We have these exact same feelings when looking back and seeing memories with our Dad.
Most recently when I’ve been looking back, and time starts getting closer to September 2016, I’m looking at the pictures and the good times we were having with the thought of, we truly didn’t have a clue the way in which our lives were about to change forever and never be the same ever again.
It’s bittersweet just like with life prior to the pandemic, but the bitter sad part this time, it will never be the same as we don’t get our Dad back. This part of our life with our great Dad in it came to an end.
That thought of you just never know what’s coming next.
Quite the same as the pandemic. As an example, my friends and I went to a music concert in February 2020. Little did we know that would be our last concert and last time socialising in such a large capacity for over one year.
My sister and I have never been one to take things for granted, but the situations we have been through in the past five year’s have really shown us that no matter what we should try our best to live our best life.
Although these memories can be hard to bare, we are thankful, grateful and blessed that we had the oppporunity to make them. We are also thankful that we have them to look back on.
Please see Memories and Grief:
2. Illustrative examples: Memories and Grief
3. Memories and Grief
3.1 Is it good idea to keep reminders of lost loved ones?
“Grief doesn’t magically end at a certain point after a loved one’s death. Reminders often bring back the pain of loss. Here’s help coping — and healing. … They’re a reflection that your loved one’s life was important to you”.
3.2 Does the pain of death ever go away?
“When you lose someone close to you, that grief never fully goes away—but you do learn to cope with it over time. Several effective coping techniques include talking with loved ones about your pain, remembering all of the good in your life, engaging in your favorite activities, and consulting a grief counsellor”. (30 Aug 2018).
3.3 Memories that can nourish us at this time of bereavement and…
(15 Feb 2021) — “How do we handle memory, and commemoration? Do they help us cope with loss? Learning about loss is something we all grow into as time” …
3.4 Grief Triggers and Positive Memory: A Continuum
“A grief trigger is anything that brings up memories related to a loss. Triggers may be obvious and easy to anticipate – like a birthday or a holiday – or they”…
3.5 Grief: Coping with reminders after a loss – Mayo Clinic
“Pain; Sadness; Trouble sleeping. Anniversary reactions can also evoke powerful memories of the feelings and events surrounding your loved one’s death. For”…
3.6 Memories Can Help Us Heal Our Grief – Open To Hope
“9 Jan 2015 — Home » Memories Can Help Us Heal Our Grief. “I learn something from my mother every day,” I told my husband. The statement surprised me”.
4. Our Final thoughts/YouTube Video
In our journey of grief and discovery of very many new ways of living. We are trying our best to hold on to and treasure the priceless memories made, and look forward to new memories that are yet to be made.
Our Dad will never ever be forgotten, he lives on in us all. We love him forever and always.
Grief Probate Journey 
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