Sitting with thoughts. Reflecting on life and our experience. Our four-year experience of losing our Dad.
How different we have become, still not knowing who we are, still barely managing to navigate and find our way through daily life.
Still trying to be engaged in present moments.
Please see Reflection and Grief which covers:
- Introduction
- Quotes/Illustrative Examples: Reflection and Grief
- Reflection and Grief
- Our Final Thoughts/Our YouTube Video
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1. Introduction
Sitting with thoughts. Reflecting on life and our experience. Our four-year experience of losing our Dad.
How different we have become, still not knowing who we are, still barely managing to navigate and find our way through daily life.
Still trying to be engaged in present moments.
We often say that our life had been one big blur. We also say this blog has been a lifeline to us, but what we are realising more and more is that even though we express ourselves so openly in our blog. Deep down we feel like we are still in the same place we were when our Dad sadly passed away.
We know we’re moving forward because years have gone by and we have gotten older but in terms of our loss and “acceptance” of it. The way we feel hasn’t changed.
We know it is our reality. But it still remains one of the hardest realities to face.
We feel these feelings and reflecting has surfaced after publishing one of our latest blog topics: Grief Probate Journey is 27 months old. We see this as such a great achievement. We are honoured, grateful and blessed. We truly hope we can and will continue growing. We hope to make our Dad proud. This is all in his honour.
Please see Reflection and Grief:
2. Quotes/Illustrative Examples: Reflection and Grief
3. Reflection and Grief
3.1 Reflection on Grief – Ninneness Funeral Home
“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same.”
“Grief does not change you. It reveals you.” … “Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.” … “Only people who …
3.2 Why is it important to learn about grief?
“Grieving such losses is important because it allows us to ‘free-up’ energy that is bound to the lost person, object, or experience—so that we might re-invest that energy elsewhere. … Healthy grieving results in an ability to remember the importance of our loss—but with a newfound sense of peace, rather than searing pain”.
3.3 How do I write about grief?
“Write down thoughts and feelings about yourself and the departed. Share deeply what you want the dead person to know and acknowledge. Express your regret and apology as a way to bring closure. See clearly the thoughts and feelings you have about death, yourself, and the departed”. (18 Jun 2018).
3.4 What can you learn from Grief?
Learn from your grief:
- “Grief creates gratitude”. …
- “Grief can help you engage with your life”. …
- “Grief can’t be solved by avoiding it”. …
- “Grief can help you to refocus”. …
- “Life doesn’t stop”. …
- “Bitterness only creates more pain”. …
- “You’ll find out who your friends really are”. …
- “You can overcome anything”.
3.5 Why is it important to acknowledge and understand your grief?
“Through understanding, you gain a sense of control. Seek out information about grief. Everyone grieves differently. Cultural and religious experiences, the circumstances of the death and your relationship with the person who died influences your reactions to grief”.
3.6 Why do people write about grief?
“Some research suggests that disclosing deep emotions through writing can boost immune function as well as mood and well-being. Conversely, the stress of holding in strong feelings can ratchet up blood pressure and heart rate, and increase muscle tension”.
How to deal with the grieving process
- “Acknowledge your pain”.
- “Accept that grief can trigger many different and unexpected emotions”.
- “Understand that your grieving process will be unique to you”.
- “Seek out face-to-face support from people who care about you”.
- “Support yourself emotionally by taking care of yourself physically”.
4. Our Final Thoughts/Our YouTube Video
From time to time my sister and I go through moments of reflection, realisations, a range of emotions. When we feel strongly about them, we use our platform to share what we find about these emotions and how they relate to grief. Although we are aware that grief is an individual experience, and as unique as a fingerprint, shared experiences can help along individual journeys, and this is why we are thankful and grateful for our blog and this platform we have created.
We hope this might be of use to those who read it.
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