Throughout our topics, we have often referred to the range of emotions we experience along our journey.
It seems one of the biggest emotions that has not been dealt with is opening up to the emotion of the loss of our Dad.
This feels like something extremely:
- Major
- Scary
- Uncomfortable
- Unimaginable
- Unknown
Please see Emotions and Grief which covers:
- Introduction
- Illustrative Examples: Emotions and Grief
- Emotions and Grief
- Our Final Thoughts/Our YouTube Video
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1. Introduction
Throughout our topics, we have often referred to the range of emotions we experience along our journey.
It seems one of the biggest emotions that has not been dealt with is opening up to the emotion of the loss of our Dad.
This feels like something extremely:
- Major
- Scary
- Uncomfortable
- Unimaginable
- Unknown
We (my sister and I) have never been people that like to:
- Talk about how we feel
- Think about how we feel
It may seem strange as we are doing this blog which in a sense exposes our inner thoughts and feelings.
BUT it is not the same as opening up to ourselves and addressing the loss of our Dad. We are realising that is something that we are not ready to do.
The thing about it is, by doing this it will not only help us along our journey, but it will also help us mentally and physically.
The thought of knowing this has to be done is quite overwhelming but it also makes us feel there is great strength in doing something like that. Hopefully, we will get to a place where we feel ready to do this. There is always the possibility that it might happen naturally without too much thought and could turn out to not be as worrisome as to how we feel about it right now. In the meantime, we are continuing along our journey doing the best that we can day by day.
These realisations have come to me in my recent counselling sessions. I thought that I had been assigned bereavement therapy. It turns out this is an open session of counselling for me to decide what it is I want out of it.
Before these sessions, I felt I was ready for bereavement counselling, but now realising what is required (going into yourself and feeling and acknowledging your feelings) not being so much in your head letting feelings in and not thoughts.
Both my sister and I know we are not ready for all of that, it feels big, huge, daunting. Because of these reasons we wanted to share this in a topic in case there might be other who feel similar to this.
Please see Emotions and Grief:
2. Illustrative Examples: Emotions and Grief
3. Emotions and Grief
3.1 The Reality Of The Emotions Of Grief |HuffPost Life
“24 Sept 2016 — Society tends to believe that grief makes you sad. If only grief was this simple. If you have lost someone you love, you should be prepared for”
3.2 Coping with the Conflicting Emotions of Grief – Whats your Grief
“So many different things that life after the death of a loved often comes to feel like one big emotional mash-up. One emotional experience that many grieving “..
3.3 Understanding the Emotions of Grief – Stages? More Like a Roller Coaster!
“The emotions of grief can make us feel as if we are on a roller coaster. · During the bereavement process, normal everyday mood swings reacting to all of the”…
3.4 The Emotional Stages of Coping with Loss
“2 Feb 2021 — Grief affects each person uniquely. But what, exactly, are these stages, and how can knowledge of them help the bereaved”?
3.5 Feelings and Reactions to a Significant Loss | VITAS Healthcare
“Feelings Often Experienced While Grieving. Sadness. The most common reaction, sadness is sometimes exhibited by crying. Anger. Frequently felt and often one”…
3.6 Grief is not one emotion – Speaking Grief
“Grief is the container that holds all of the emotions felt as a result of loss”.
3.7 The emotional effects of grief after bereavement
“17 Oct 2019 — It’s an individual experience which is defined by your relationship with the deceased person and the circumstances of their death. Although most”…
3.8 Finally! A Grief Definition That Makes Sense |Love Lives On
“Heading: What Does Grief Mean? When somebody that we love dies, we feel powerful, overwhelming emotions that can be difficult to talk about. Society labels”…
3.9 Emotional Reactions – Grief Healing
“For weeks, months, or even years after the death of a loved one occurs, the shock of loss continues in a wave of disbelieving aftershocks. The process is” …
3.10 Good Grief: A Process of Emotional Healing – Soul Shepherding
“The true comfort that we all need in times of loss comes through engaging in a good grief process. Good grief is to respond to a death or other loss by feeling sad”, …
4. Our Final Thoughts/YouTube Video
Grief is an individual expereince. As individuals travelling through our grief, doing the best that we can do to get by day to day is what counts and what is important. Self Care, Self love, Self validation is also something that is invaluable. It can be so easy to forget about ourselves. But the best that we can do is just that, the best that we can do.
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