Magic Wand and Grief

This topic came about through thoughts and feelings surrounding the nature of our grief and loss.

For my sister and I, often we have felt like we wish we could bury our head in the sand until things resolve themselves, we also sometimes wish or feel like there was someone who could reassure us that everything is going to be OK…..

Please see Magic Wand and Grief which covers:

  1. Introduction
  2. Quotes/Illustrative examples: Magic Wand and Grief
  3. Magic Wand and Grief
  4. Our Final Thoughts/Our YouTube Video

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1. Introduction

This topic came about through thoughts and feelings surrounding the nature of our grief and loss.

For my sister and I, often we have felt like we wish we could bury our heads in the sand until things resolve themselves, we also sometimes wish or feel like there was someone who could reassure us that everything is going to be OK.

But the further along our journey we go it feels impossible, there is always more to deal with, more unknowns and uncertainties, reasons for us to feel vulnerable and overwhelmed. Maybe we are feeling like this a bit more because we will be finding out the results of the Hospital complaint this month. This is a very big thing for us, we do not know what the results will be, we do not know how we will feel, we do not know what our next steps will be.

Because of all of this, the thought there is no Magic wand to make it all better came to mind, and so we decided to explore this to find out if there was any information on this. As we suspected there is. Amongst the things we found out, we came across a quote that really resonated with us and how we are feeling:

“Remember that there is no magic wand that can take away the pain and grief. The best any of us can do is to be there and be supportive” – Marilyn Mendoza

This sums up the nature behind we are doing this topic. To share in case others might have these same feelings or similar feelings along their grief journey.

Please see Magic Wand and Grief:

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2. Quotes/Illustrative examples: Magic Wand and Grief

 

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3. Magic Wand and Grief

3.1 Nuala Mckeever: ‘You have to face grief and you have to get through it – there is no Magic Wand to make thing’s better’

“Belfast’s queen of comedy found out that life isn’t always funny three-and-a-half years ago when her partner of four years Mike Moloney passed away suddenly”. ….

3.2 What Counsellors actually do (no Magic Wands involved) – Jersey Hospice Care

What do counsellors actually do? In truth, it’s both more ordinary and more special than people might think. At its most basic, counselling is confidential, focused attention on someone’s story without judgment, and with compassion”….

3.3 Grief Never Ends, and That’s Okay

“(7 Oct 2021) — The narrative arc of my grief story is a circle. Time and again, I find myself back at the … wish I had a magic wand for all of us”…

3.4 Shortcutting Grief | Moving Past Grief

“No one is exempt from loss, the kind that affects our heart and stirs up a wide range of emotions. Each significant loss affects us in ways we never imagined, requiring difficult
adjustments– ones we never wanted to make. Is there a shortcut through this painful time of grief”?

3.5 Grief of the Newly Bereaved – The Compassionate Friends

“parent than the death of our child, whatever … Events around our child’s death are with us … we have no magic wand, and accepting that this cannot”….

3.6 Why is grieving so hard?

Grief is hard work

“It requires more energy to work through than most people expect. It takes a toll on us physically and emotionally. This is why we often feel so fatigued after a loss or why we may feel very apathetic towards people and events”.

3.7 Is Grief a Disease? – The Atlantic

“(16 Nov 2016) — Part of grieving is regaining it. In another CGT exercise, the therapist asks a scripted question: “If someone could wave a magic wand and your”…

3.8 Good Life, Good Death, Good Grief:: Welcome

Good Life, Good Death, Good Grief wants to address this. We want to create a Scotland where everyone knows how to help when someone is dying or grieving”.

3.9 The chronic stress survival guide: how to live with anxiety

“2 Sept 2021 — Stress can feel like a baseline condition for many of us – especially during a pandemic. But there are ways to help alleviate the very worst …


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4. Our Final Thoughts/Our YouTube Video

Life can be very unpredictable at the best of times. Worldwide, the past couple of years has most certainly been an example of this. Living through a pandemic has been one of the most surreal, life-changing experiences both mentally and physically.

As we move through our individual journeys being aware of our mental state of mind and trying our best to practice wellbeing and self-care is even more important.

We hope this topic will be of use to anyone who might read it.

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