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Please see: We miss our Dad: Parent Loss and Grief which covers:
- YouTube Videos – Losing a Parent
- Illustrative examples – Losing a parent
- Loss of a parent – missing a parent
- Our Final thoughts/YouTube Video
Missing hearing people say:
- Mr Greene
Missing our Dad’s accent/Twang. Although our Dad came to England as a teenager, he had not lost his Bajan twang.
- Our Dad’s presence
- His influence
- His advice
- His creativity (fixing things)
Just missing every single thing.
Time will never change this or make it any easier. If anything, unfortunately at the moment, time makes thing’s worse.
All the thing’s we’re achieving that make us feel proud (such as how well this blog is doing) that we know:
- Would make our Dad happy
- Would make our Dad smile
But we cannot share these thing’s with him any longer.
The world is such an uncertain place right now with this current pandemic we are living through, which definitely has an impact on how we feel and our grief. Our Dad sadly passed away in 2017, however, the effects are still the same three years later.
We are trying our very best to get through day by day. We have good days and bad times. We try our best to be balanced, acknowledge our feeling’s and move through them in the best way possible. We try to do this as positively as possible.
One thing we can be grateful for and cherish highly is our memories. Memories in our mind, and memories gained through pictures, songs and things like that. A few of our treasued memories are below:
Please see: We miss our Dad: loss of a parent and grief
2. YouTube Videos – Losing a Parent
2.1 Losing A Parent: Understood YouTube
“The death of your parent, at any age, is a huge loss. BBC Three spoke to eight people about their experience … (5 Jun 2018) · Uploaded by BBC Three
The death of your parent, at any age, is a huge loss. BBC Three spoke to eight people about their experience of bereavement at a young age, and how despite the horror, heartache and absence, there are things they’re still grateful for.
If you, or someone you know, have been affected by bereavement, the following organisations in the UK may be able to help: http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/artic…
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2.3 When a parent has died: young people share their experiences
“Young people we’ve supported talk about some of the difficulties and what helped them after the death of their mum or dad. Child Bereavement UK support children, young people and families. Call our UK Helpline on 0800 0288840 or visit www.childbereavementuk.org”
3. Illustrative examples – Losing a Parent
4. Loss of a parent – missing a parent
“10 Dec 2011 — Losing your parents is never easy, however old you are, says Eleni Kyriacou, who was 39 but still felt like an orphan. And other”…
“Jump to Dad In Heaven Quotes — Dad In Heaven Quotes. “Say not in grief ‘he is no more’ but in thankfulness that he was.” – “No matter where I am, your spirit will be beside me. “If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart. “May each tear and each fond memory be a note of love rising to meet you.” –
“happy anniversary in heaven mom and dad images Miss Mom, Miss You Dad, Love”.
“ 5 Oct 2020 — The loss of a mother or father affects us in a multitude of ways. Here’s what experts say about coping with the death of a parent”.
“ Society often writes off the death a parent as the natural order of events, but those who’ve experienced it know how life-changing it is. Here’s how to cope”.
“ Nothing can prepare you for losing Mom or Dad, no matter how long they have lived. Learn to recognize the 5 stages of grief and know how they will help you as” …
“27 Sep 2017 — Complicated grief often results in attempts to self-medicate with drugs or alcohol”.
“ 19 Jan 2018 — “We tend to think of ourselves as ‘children’ until we lose our parents. It is only then that we are on the front line of mortality,” said Debra J.” …
“8 Sept 2018 — I lost my mom when I was 29 and now my dad passed away three years later- just 6 weeks ago. Grief is tiring and hard. But it’s true that you will” …
“Read a list of charities, organisations and support groups run by volunteers that can help you or someone you know with their mental health”.
“At the end of the day, something as simple as “I’m so sorry for your loss” or “I’m so sad for you and your family, please accept my deepest condolences” is always appropriate. But you might want to offer something a little deeper than that, especially if you are close to the bereaved”.
“Children who experience parental loss are at a higher risk for many negative outcomes, including mental issues (e.g., depression, anxiety, somatic complaints, post-traumatic stress symptoms), shorter schooling, less academic success, lower self-esteem5, and more sexual risk behaviors6”. (22 Oct 2020)
My sister and I can relate to some of the things within this article. When our Dad sadly passed away in March 2017, we faced some of the biggest and most overwhelming responsibilities in taking care of our Dad’s affairs.
“Five Ways to Cope With Your Parent’s Death”
- “Give yourself plenty of time to process”.
- “Get support from people who have been there”.
- “Have a plan for emotionally-charged days”.
- “Find ways to keep your parent’s presence in your life”.
- “Forgive yourself for feeling a bit better”. (3 Jan 2018)
“Welcome to our page that we hope will help those of you who have lost a parent or grandparent any age. If you are a young person who has lost a parent, please visit our For Young People page which may be helpful”.
‘When my dad died, the pain of my grief was compounded by seeing my son in such despair‘. Desperate to” …
5. Our Final thoughts/YouTube Video
As we move through our grief journey, we are realising more and more of our feelings. Through sharing it, we also learn, and gain useful advice for ourselves, it also helps us to know that the way we are feeling is completely normal, and that we do not need to feel any sort of way that we are experiencing these feelings even if it is three years after our Dad sadly passed away, or however years it may be.
Grieving is an indvidual process, when going through it, doing what is best and right for your personal journey is what is important.
We hope this topic has been of use to someone. We would like to wish anyone who reads this a safe day, evening, night and week.