Anxiety and Grief

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Please see: Anxiety and Grief which covers:

  1. Introduction
  2. Anxiety and Grief quotes
  3. Anxiety
  4. Anxiety and Grief
  5. Our Final Thoughts/YouTube Video

1. Introduction

Throughout our journey, we have experienced many different thing’s. Each new thing we face and go through brings on its own set of:

  • Challenges
  • Worries
  • Excitement
  • Fear

In the moment of experiencing a certain emotion, it can feel quite intense, and we are fully aware we are feeling and experiencing this particular moment. However, once that moment passes, we forget:

  • Forget how it made us feel
  • Forget what it was that caused or brought on that emotion.

And then we move on to our next task.

It is only until something happens triggering that same emotion that we remember the time before when we felt like this. An example of this right now is anxiety. My sister and I have become extremely anxious with everything we have gone through over the past four year’s.  The feelings of anxiety can be subtle or intense, it can have an immediate effect at or delayed at times. (We also have a topic on Anxiety, Social Anxiety and Grief and Anxiety Awareness and Mental Wellness).

Most recently, I am able to notice anxiety is setting in because my skin gets whaley (like hives), this lets me know the thought’s I’m processing, or the things I’m trying to organise in my mind are causing me worry.

Other than the events related to our Dad passing away, the Coronavirus pandemic has also had an effect. As an example, because our mum has been shielding during the lockdown periods, we did not travel on London transport, and have not done so since. For my sister, her worries and fears are not only for our mum, but also her children.

Another worry for my sister and I which has always been even before our Dad passed away is our mum and her health. We have always been involved in being aware of the conditions our mum has, taking her to her hospital appointments etc, but since what happened to our Dad and the nature of the circumstances, we are even more conscious, aware and even more involved in our mum’s health, and wellbeing. Our Mum is all we have left.  Subconsciously this is something that was always on our mind, especially during the times when we were extremely busy with probate and sorting our Dad’s affairs. I say this because in my dreams when our Dad appeared, he would be showing us to look out for our Mum and make sure she is okay. We have a topic on visitation dreams and Signs which goes into this in further detail.

 Please see Anxiety and Grief:


2. Anxiety and Grief quotes


3. Anxiety

3.1 Generalised Anxiety Disorder in Adults – NHS

“Anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe. Everyone has feelings of anxiety at some point in their life. For example, you may feel worried and anxious about sitting an exam, or having a medical test or job interview”.

3.2 Anxiety, Causes, Symptoms, Treatment and More – Helpline

“Anxiety is your body’s natural response to stress. It’s a feeling of fear or apprehension about what’s to come. The first day of school, going to a job interview, or giving a speech may cause most people to feel fearful and nervous”.

3.3 Best Ways To deal with Anxiety – NHS Mental Health help

“ Follow Our Simple Steps To Help You Manage Your Anxiety. Understand How To Manage Anxiety With Our Free Advice. Reframe Your Thoughts. Sleep Better. Get Help. Stay Connected. Create An Action Plan. Clear NHS Advice. Mental Wellbeing. Types: Mental Health, Sleep”.

3.4 How can I calm my anxiety?

Try these when you’re feeling anxious or stressed:

  1. “Take a time-out”. …
  2. “Eat well-balanced meals”. …
  3. “Limit alcohol and caffeine, which can aggravate anxiety and trigger panic attacks”.
  4. “Get enough sleep”. …
  5. “Exercise daily to help you feel good and maintain your health”. …
  6. “Take deep breaths”. …
  7. “Count to 10 slowly”. …
  8. “Do your best”.

3.5 Can I overcome anxiety on my own?

“Anxiety is a beast, but it is possible to win the battle without medication. Sometimes, overcoming worry and nervousness is simply a matter of modifying your behavior, thoughts, and lifestyle. You can start with a drug-free approach, and then speak with a doctor if your symptoms don’t improve or worsen”.

3.6 Self-Care for Anxiety |Mind the mental health charity- help for

“Explains anxiety and panic attacks, including possible causes and how you can access treatment and support. Includes tips for helping”…

3.7 Does anxiety shorten your life?

(July 31, 2012) – “Psychological distress, even at relatively low levels, is linked to an increased risk of death, a large new study shows. Distress is a measure of psychological health that takes into account symptoms of anxiety or depression”. (31 Jul 2012)

3.8 Can anxiety affect bowel movements?

“Thoughts and emotions triggered by stress can have an effect on your stomach and bowels. The reverse can also occur. What goes on in your gut can cause stress and long-term upset. Chronic constipation, diarrhea, and other types of bowel conditions may trigger anxiety, causing a vicious circle of stress”. (20 Nov 2018)

3.9 What helps an anxious stomach?

“Practice deep breathing, mindfulness, and meditation”

“This can manage stress and anxiety that cause a nervous stomach. Deep breaths can be especially helpful. If you like meditation or have any other mental tricks that calm you down, give them a try”. (23 Jan 2018)

3.10 Is anxiety bad for your heart?

“Anxiety disorders can cause rapid heart rate, palpitations, and chest pain. You may also be at an increased risk of high blood pressure and heart disease. If you already have heart disease, anxiety disorders may raise the risk of coronary events”.

3.11 Can anxiety make you physically sick?

“Anxiety also causes increased blood flow, which can make you dizzy and warm. All these symptoms can be mistaken for the flu. Over time anxiety can cripple your immune system, causing you to feel sick and weak. This also makes it easier for viruses like the flu to attack your body”.

3.12 How can you reduce physical symptoms of anxiety?

Self-Care For Anxiety:

  1. “Be physically active, if you’re able. Exercise can help reduce stress and improve physical health”. …
  2. “Avoid alcohol, caffeine, and nicotine. Any of these can make anxiety worse”.
  3. “Try relaxation techniques”. …
  4. “Prioritize sleep”.

3.13 Can anxiety cause weird body sensations?

“It is common for anxiety to cause feelings of numbness and tingling. This can occur almost anywhere on the body but is most commonly felt on the face, hands, arms, feet and legs. This is caused by the blood rushing to the most important parts of the body that can aide fight or flight”. (21 Apr 2020)

3.14 Can anxiety cause weird feeling in head?

“2. Anxiety or stress. When a person feels anxious or is under a lot of stress, they may feel a tingling sensation in their head. Stress triggers the release of norepinephrine and other hormones”. (7 Aug 2019)

3.15 How do I cope with anxiety?

Try these when you’re feeling anxious or stressed:

  1. “Take a time-out”. …
  2. “Eat well-balanced meals”. …
  3. “Limit alcohol and caffeine, which can aggravate anxiety and trigger panic attacks”.
  4. “Get enough sleep”. …
  5. “Exercise daily to help you feel good and maintain your health”. …
  6. “Take deep breaths”. …
  7. “Count to 10 slowly”. …
  8. “Do your best”.


4. Anxiety and Grief

4.1 Is Anxiety the missing stage of grief?

“Related Resources. Bidwell Smith shared with us the resource section from her new book Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief—which is itself an immensely helpful” …

4.2 Anxiety in Grief – Whats Your Grief

“Many people can pinpoint at least one thing that, since their loss, makes them feel anxious in ways it never did before. …you fear grief emotion. The relationship” …

4.3 Grief and Anxiety: Complicated Grief to Anxiety Disorder

“6 Sept 2019 — Anxiety is a common part of the grieving process, but if your anxiety symptoms do not dissipate after 6 months after the loss of a loved one, you”…

4.4 Bereavement Anxiety |Psychology Today UK

“18 Dec 2019 — Experiencing anxiety after the loss of a loved one? Here are strategies for coping”.

4.5 Anxiety and Grief After Losing a Loved One – Next Avenue

“18 Oct 2018 — In her new book, grief therapist Claire Bidwell Smith explains why, for many people, anxiety is another normal stage in the grieving process”.

4.6 Grief and Anxiety: Why It’s Normal to Feel Anxiety After a Sudden Loss

“20 Jun 2018 — Suddenly losing a loved one comes with a slew of emotions, including grief, panic attacks, and anxiety. Here are tips for looking after your” …

4.7 10 Ways to Overcome Grief-Related Anxiety – Modern Loss

“2 Oct 2018 — I went through my own bouts with anxiety following the loss of my parents – panic attacks, hypochondria, and a general sense of pervasive dread”.


5. Our Final Thoughts/YouTube Video

We are living through what could almost feel like surreal time’s. Acknowledging and being aware of our mental state of mind and wellbeing is even more essential. Practicing self care as often as possible can help to get through these times.


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