This topic came about quite randomly. My sister and I were talking about things our Dad used to say and do. At this moment, my sister said sometimes she struggles to remember some of our Dads habits /traits. One of the things I have noticed is forgetting moments that we would spend together as a family. Father’s Day is something that slips my mind each year now. That feeling is hard to explain, something that would have been a moment celebrated, I do not remember because I no longer need to, and I no longer need to as our Dad is no longer here……
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1. Introduction to the topic
This topic came about quite randomly. My sister and I were talking about things our Dad used to say and do. At this moment, my sister said sometimes she struggles to remember some of our Dads habits /traits. One of the things I have noticed is forgetting moments that we would spend together as a family. Father’s Day is something that slips my mind each year now. That feeling is hard to explain, something that would have been a moment celebrated, I do not remember because I no longer need to, and I no longer need to as our Dad is no longer here.
The first Father’s Day that I really felt the difference. I felt lost and didn’t know what to do. We have many suppressed memories, due to the journey we went through with our Dad.
My sister and I have been running this blog for four years, we speak about grief and many other subject matters. But ultimately, we do not focus on the loss of our Dad. We push it out of our mind, and then there will be random reminders that make us remember and realise. As an example, we might come across a picture of him, or the order of service for his send-off. When seeing these things, the reality of our loss becomes present. It feels surreal and strange, but sometimes we take it to be encouragement from our Dad if we are going through difficult moments. We feel this happens to help us get through what we are going through and move on from it.
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2. Forgetting and Grief
2.1 Grief and Remembrance: The Fear of Forgetting
“One of the biggest fears I’ve seen clients walk through while grieving is forgetting their deceased loved one (for another common obstacle”…
2.2 What is the fear of forgetting someone who passed away
“Fear of forgetting a departed loved one is a natural experience long after their passing, so you shouldn’t feel ashamed if you have those feelings. Often, we mistakenly identify letting go with forgetting. You can do the former without the latter. After all, you will never forget any person who matters to you”.
2.3 Does death of a parent change you?
“Research even shows that people experiencing grief from the loss of a parent are more likely to have a higher risk of anxiety, depression, and substance abuse”.
2.4 Anxiety Over Fading Memories
(20 Sept 2020) — “One of the most anxiety-producing features of death is that we will somehow forget our loved one. We fear that, with the inevitable passage”…
2.5 The Grief of Moving Forward: The Fear of Forgetting
“We think/feel that the life of our loved one will cease to matter. When someone we love dies, we quickly realize that others move on”…
2.6 When you forget the loved one who died – Our Sunday Visitor
(17 Oct 2022) — “He’d lost his father, and he did not want to stop grieving. My friend feared that soon he wouldn’t feel so heartbroken, because that would”…
2.7 I fear I “might” forget my Dad: r/griefsupport
(11 Jan 2022) — “But you never truly forget someone you loved, at least outside of early childhood loss. Their memories are sometimes just waiting in the wings”.
2.8 What is the shock after death of father?
“Shock is common after the loss of a loved one. Shock symptoms can include both a bodily and emotional response in the same person. It’s possible that you’ll experience dizziness, nausea, confusion, numbness, or even exhaustion. Feeling stunned may cause you to doubt the veracity of what you’re hearing”. (16 Apr 2022).
2.9 How to Recover and Find Strength after Losing a Parent
“Feelings of loss or anger can grow stronger if left unchecked, especially if you’ve never known death so close. Exploring ways to cope with these feelings”.
3. Our final thoughts
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